Yesterday was October 15 , here is an excerpt from October15.org explaining what that means:
In October 1988, President Ronald Reagan Proclaimed October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. “When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes.”
Robyn Bear, founder of www.october15th.com envisioned a day when all grieving parents could come together and be surrounded by love and support from their friends and families, a day where the community could better understand their pain and learn how to reach out to those grieving. This would be a day to reflect on the loss yet embrace the love. While our babies’ lives where so brief, they were also very meaningful. Yet, there was not a time to talk about them. Our society seemed to forget or perhaps, simply didn’t know how to reach out. Since October had been proclaimed “Awareness Month”, she chose a day, in the middle of the month to become, “Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day”. We are asking everyone in all times zones, worldwide, to join us in a candle lighting ceremony at 7pm on October 15th
The kindness meant so much , I can’t explain it. I’m not shown a lot of kindness, the avoidance, the eye rolls, the “you not over that yet” statements, so her to acknowledge my feelings was amazing. Was affirming, yes I am a mother to 5 beautiful children. Then a Facebook “friend” participated in a balloon release and included my 4 kids. How wonderful!!, what kindness to show me, to take the time to write their names! To do this, I’m in awe!! To show undeserved kindness and not expect anything in return is so rare! It’s beautiful when it happens and means so much to me.