A few weeks after my first miscarriage I remember my sister saying to me “a lot of people have miscarriages, Claire had one and she has a healthy baby now” implication being “get over it”.
I’ve put together a list of 12 comments that different family and friends have said to me after my miscarriages and stillbirths! I remember each of these as of it was yesterday. I could even tell you when and where they were said
The turning point came about 3 weeks ago. I no longer wanted to feel out of control, a bubbling mess. a victim. a survivor. I wanted to find healing or joy but I didn’t know how. I was depressed, anxious and looking everywhere for answers. How do I stop these inadequate feelings? how do I grieve but still live?
When I was struggling after my miscarriages and stillbirths, the thought of meals for my family was over-whelming! Deciding what to make daily, going to the store to get the ingredients, make the meal, eat the meal and then the clean up and dishes. I just couldn’t! Some days I couldn’t even call for a pizza (seriously). My Doctor suggested a chef but I couldn’t afford this. I wanted to do once a month cooking, freezer meals or batch cooking but I couldn’t find any healthy meals that my family would like.